There are so many myths and stigmas out there attached to these types of events but the truth is, speed dating is one of the most effective ways to meet new people for dating.
But as the years have gone on, the popularity of speed dating has dwindled … Unfortunately, the reality of modern-day speed dating, is that whilst most of the events take place in bars, the general crowd, particularly the men, are not people who are comfortable in bars.
The very nature of speed dating means you have a captive audience.
As you might imagine, I did not find the love of my life.
I made some beginner’s mistakes; however, I am not alone in having struggled with speed dating.
The trick is to leverage this question in order to find out more. There is no need to divulge your inner most desires or fears. But likewise, kicking back with both arms spread across the back of the chair, legs spread wide, suggests an ego so desperate to impress that substance abuse will be suspected. If you fancy having a playful night and think making something up for each date is witty and clever, perhaps think twice. If you are going to do this then make sure it’s obvious you’re having a laugh otherwise people will think you’re a pathological liar.
And yet almost all of us can find some part of our job that we enjoy. Open hand gestures and an open body while facing the person show interest and make people feel relaxed and safe. Holding your knees and crying, or folding your arms and scowling a good conversation maketh not.
A member of the opposite sex has to talk to you for at least four minutes, and so this encourages the most nervous types of daters.
People who wouldn’t normally approach the opposite sex in the real world. But the problem with speed dating, is that often the women who are attracted to speed dating events are VERY different to the men.
When you write a dating blog, speed dating is part of the territory.
And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.
Even if you have limited time to spare, speed dating only requires an investment of two hours and it allows the opportunity to meet and connect with 20 plus singles who have all come to the event with the purpose of getting to know you.