I swear I don't hate guys, and I'm certainly not bitter, I'm just not interested. Constantly seeking out relationships, finding them, and ultimately getting let down or letting someone else down was ruining me, literally.My personality was kaleidoscopic, regularly changing in order to appeal to my man-of-the-minute, only to discover that it wasn't enough or it "just didn't feel right." At my lowest, I felt anonymous and vacant.
If I was single for more than a month or two, I would complain about being in a dry spell and whine that nobody loved me.
But after a slew of boyfriends, some more serious than others, I've decided to stop dating altogether.
For happily married people, the trials of meeting a mate are ancient history that they’ve completely glossed over.
So they often parrot off clichés like “you’ll meet the right one when you most expect it” and “you’ll find him when you aren’t looking.” When you’re on this emotional roller coaster, these well meaning statements are enough to make you want to cold clock someone in the face.
Forget everything except what you are going to do now and do it.” ~William J.
Durant I’m all too aware that dating can feel like a grinding, painful roller coaster to nowhere.
Put simply, my dating life was guided less by the question, "why? "I stopped dating when I realized that "why not" is not a good enough reason to be in a relationship.
It's a great reason to buy an electric toothbrush or a doggy sweater, but not so great for life-altering decisions (unless your teeth are rapidly decaying or your dog is hypothermic).
Six months later, she was engaged to the handsome wealthy man of her dreams.
She's now (presumably) happily married with two kids... It's taken me a while to face the fact that there are rules of engagement one must follow to properly attract and trap -- I mean keep -- a partner.
If you’ve hit your head against the wall as many times as I have, you know how frustrating, depressing, and downright disheartening it can be.