My friends and I talked nonstop about cute boys or girls, and everyone couldn’t wait to be in a serious relationship. I believed that high school meant love, relationships and all the physical elements that went along with those things.
And as far as would have me believe, every teenager in high school was going at it like rabbits, or at least trying to.
I don't regret going to school with my boyfriend because I think we are both mature enough to handle the challenges that come with making that decision. It is hard to create the balance between the boy, friends, school, and partying. If you're committing to a night out with your friends, then follow through with it or don't make plans in the first place.
No girl should depend on spending every waking hour with her man, and forget everything else that is important. Let him get to know your friends, people that live on your floor, etc.
The longer I live, the more strongly I oppose the practice of dating among teenagers.
The irony of my position is that I met and married my husband when I was still a teen.
I am opposed to teens exclusively dating before a marriageable age with a purpose other than serious marriage discernment. It’s not that all of those boys were monsters (although a couple were mighty strange) but rather that I did not have the time and the freedom to develop purpose and confidence outside of a relationship.
I would gladly trade every positive moment with my teen boyfriends to have those years back as my own.
However, I soon found that these things aren’t really what they seem.
A few months into my freshman year, I jumped right into a relationship.
Instead of giving me confidence and fruitful life experience, the teenage dating culture tore me down, stunted my understanding of real commitment and love, and trapped me in a pattern of superficial people pleasing.