The surprised looks by strangers were one thing, but the harsh comments made to me by fellow Indians, especially men, implying that I had somehow betrayed Indian men as a collective, came as quite a shock to me.
I have been trying to grapple with this response and believe it all boils down, as do most issues, to racism and sexism.
Generally speaking, western men have some advantages in Chinese women's eyes, such as the idea that western men are usually tall and strong, and that most of them like sports.
They supposedly shower and change their underwear every day.
They are supposedly considerate to women, romantic, and good in bed.
More importantly, while I personally believe that a woman’s worth shouldn’t be connected to the number of guys who fantasize about her at night, this sudden change in how I was perceived by others spoke volumes to me about racial preferences and standards of beauty in Singapore.
The dark skin and curly hair that I was ridiculed for in Singapore were admired and complimented for the first time in my life.
" "OK." Two young women are depicted in a poster campaign called "Dangerous Love" that appeared in residential communities all over Beijing."A foreign friend has organized a gathering tonight.
" "OK." Two young women are depicted in a poster campaign called "Dangerous Love" that appeared in residential communities all over Beijing.
A date with an attractive Chinese woman…, aargh, help!
You may be well experienced in dating women from your own race and culture, but dating a Chinese woman, someone who may well, if things go right, become your new Chinese wife, is likely to a whole new situation, a whole new experience.
Now I always knew that Singaporeans have particular dating preferences, as do people all over the world.