If you think that getting flirty online these days is about long conversations, extended emails and ‘proper words’ think again, just as you’ve got to grips with YOLO, understood LTR and realised that LOL does *not* mean lots of love, there are new dating abbreviation on the scene. It started with MILF (‘Mum I’d Like to….’, let’s politely say, ‘Fornicate With’), but you can also have DILF (‘Dad…’), NILF (‘Nerd…’), and even, with the recent appointment of hottie Justin Trudeau as Canada’s new Prime Minister, PILF!
Depending on your taste, there is also a very popular acronym with an interchangeable first letter, depending on what kind of person is being described.
For those who have only recently found themselves single, and who haven’t had to experience this brave new world for a while, it can be downright baffling. In the olden days, you might post an ad that said you WLTM (‘would like to meet’) someone DTE (‘down to earth’) for an ‘LTR’ (long term relationship). Being DTH means being ‘down to hang’ – literally, for some low-key chilling out.
Confusingly, GSOH has also come to mean "Good Salary, Own Home" on dating sites.
The emergence of this definition means that these terms are increasingly being written in full to avoid a mix up.
The system works in a similar way to user feedback on websites such as e Bay, where a seller's character and history can influence whether a transaction is completed or not.
Like e Bay, the organisers of True Dater insist the service is carefully monitored to ensure fair play.
"Tall, sensitive, self-made millionaire, early 30s, seeks female for fun times and maybe romance." It sounds too good to be true - and for most women it actually is.
Online daters in Britain are rapidly losing their famous Good Sense Of Humour (GSOH) over the increasing number of would-be suitors fabricating personal profiles. Everyone is on their phones because, quite simply, it’s become the best way to contact potential partners. And there is a whole, racy new language being used which makes traditional Lonely Hearts columns look like a choirboy’s hymn sheet.Matt Verity, co-founder of True View, says: ‘It may seem like there’s a lot of new stuff to navigate, which might make singles who have recently come back onto the market feel a bit daunted, but once they’ve got the hang of it, they will be fine. however you see them, make sure you’re not left behind by letting our friends over at True View guide you through the modern language of love! Making the status even clearer is NSA, or ‘no strings attached’. Sounds pretty straightforward, you’d think; but these days, dating language has evolved so you can specify a whole range of requests for that potentially perfect partner – and some if it is, shall we say, quite frank! And in this busy, fast paced world, sometimes you want to try out a few partners before you settle with just one; so lots of people look for a FWB – a ‘friend with benefits’, who you can see only when it suits you, with no real commitment, and without getting emotionally involved.It’s mainly the younger generation who like abbreviations and text speak, as it’s just quicker and easier; anyone over the age of 30 or so probably won’t encounter this as much.’ Even so, here are a couple you should probably be aware of; if the other party asks you to DTR, it means they want to ‘Define the Relationship’, and find out where exactly it’s going…if it’s not a long-term thing, you can just reply YOYO: ‘You’re On Your Own! Harsh, perhaps, but it saves a lot of time in the long run.