I’ve had some real life experiences regarding this topic and I've learned somehow to navigate my way through the circumstances.
Now I have the privilege of sharing a bit of what I’ve learned on this blog. You might also know that my first marriage didn't quite work out as I'd hoped.
She has some real concerns about how the relationship is going and wanted to hear from my perspective the true dynamics of what she's experiencing.
Let me first say that I'm not a relationship expert. I’m nothing more than a dad who has walked an interesting path on my way to raising two wonderful kids.
And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). I was once at an intimate concert in which the performer, a deeply spiritual person, gazed warmly at his audience and said, "I want you to know, I love you all." I smiled tolerantly and thought, "Sure." Looking back, though, I realize my cynicism was misplaced.
Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 ― chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.) So what is love ― real, lasting love? What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others.
Their expression- whether they look happy or sad or grumpy or excited etc.
I'm shy when first meeting people so I can't make friends easily.
let’s say your plan is to come to the Philippines, get to know some lovely ladies and choose the best one to be your wife. However, there are a few things to know ahead of time so your experience does not get snagged on a legal issue along the way. Take time to know your prospective Filipina fiance’. Not only get to know her as a person, but her marital status as well.
The good news is, if you come prepared you will be fine. As you will soon find out, there can be a few hurdles to cross at times.
A few years ago, I spoke to a group of high-schoolers about the Jewish idea of love. By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone.
" "We're choosing to love him," her mother explained, "because love is a choice." There's no better wisdom Susan's mother could have imparted to her before marriage.
I am not an attorney nor am I in any way providing anyone with the most current legal stances in place.