First of all, you spend a lot of time and energy worrying that your partner is going to get herpes.It’s much harder to tell someone if they just found out they’re infected with herpes.It's up to you to decide the right time to tell a date that you have genital herpes.
If ok, want to jump on my soapbox for a second, if anyone reading this has herpes, do the right thing, let people know. As far as genital herpes goes, we’re talking 20% of the population.
One of the most difficult things I had to do was call former boyfriends I may have exposed (think it was dormant in my system for quite sometime, I honestly did not know). I think all the readers should take a second to put themselves in your shoes for a moment. That’s 50 MILLION people, a majority of whom don’t even know they’re infected.
Fortunately, it turns out that most of the time dating with herpes isn't nearly as scary as worrying about it. One of the toughest things to remember when dating with herpes is that mostly it's just .
Here's why: After herpes diagnosis, it may be difficult to think about anything other than the fact that you have a disease. Dating is an activity fraught with the potential for drama, pain, and heartbreak for pretty much everyone.
It might be better to break the news about herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you.
Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that.
For most people, the anxiety over not telling your partner you have herpes is worse than the telling itself.
On the other hand, by telling your partner you have herpes and allowing them to enter into the relationship with full knowledge of your infection, you reduce the likelihood of them becoming infected with herpes.
Many people do not feel comfortable talking about sexuality and sexual health issues.
This pamphlet will explore ways of feeling more confident in discussing herpes in the context of a sexual relationship.
Second, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too strong for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.