A popular question we get for our famous ‘Ask a Guy’ section is: “Why won’t he call me his girlfriend?
” I am not surprised at all, this situation is the worst!
He clearly likes being around you, but making time for quality interaction means that weekend calls are probably few and far between.
Eric does a great job explaining what might be going on in your guy’s mind but I have some insights that, although from a female perspective, will be of great value as well. The experience caused me to completely shut down emotionally.
I was aloof, I was hard to read, I didn’t get too close, I was present but never available, essentially, I was a guy (in the psychological sense anyway! My ‘guy’ behavior caused the actual guys was seeing to take on the ‘girl role’ and they were always way more into it than I was (this was also due to my aforementioned heartbreak which rendered me numb).
’ I know he had a painful breakup with his girlfriend before me which I think might be a part of this, so I’m trying to be understanding but I don’t think one thing should have anything to do with the other.
Sometimes I’m okay with how things are, but other times I get really angry, especially when my friends get on my case about it.
Our relationship is starting to suffer now because even though I say I’m fine with how things are, deep down this is really bothering me and I feel really hurt by the fact that even though I am his ‘girlfriend,’ he won’t acknowledge me in that way.
Can you please shed some light on what’s going on here?
But I am just naturally a romantic person and I like to do that stuff!
So I have been trying to not call her as much, and some days I just ignore her and do my own thing.
She also is not the best communicator of her feelings when it comes to how she personally feels.
She told me that she’s talked to me more about how she personally feels then all her other relationships combined; I’m not sure if I should be happy about that or not. We are sexually exclusive with each other, but she gets upset sometimes when I do really nice things for her.
It doesn’t make sense to go to mine.” After some period of time you’ve GOT to see his space.