There’s nothing quite like a new generation setting out to breed.It’s an exercise in feverishness and fretfulness, in urgency and appetite, a sweet and simpleminded leave-taking of the senses in the pursuit of, well, a lot. Then there’s companionship, and security and the esteem of your friends—to say nothing of yourself—and the basic thrill of thinking that maybe, just maybe, you’re in love.
The new generation has sex with a wink, sex with awareness—sex as an exercise in bonding and socializing, experimentation, even irony, sex as a complex act that can mean anything at all or nothing at all, and you know what? The popular trope of the Millennial age is that sex and love might not be any different now from what they’ve always been, but the way they’re practiced and pursued has changed meaningfully, in large part because of the technology that enables it.
The school dance gave way to the singles bar which gave way to the personal ad, which gave way to the Internet which gave way to the smartphone—your handheld, in-pocket, 24-hour police scanner for love.
Soon enough, their sexuality will be back in harness—they’ll be married, with children, their primal impulses constrained again by commitment and culture.
But for now, they’re a cohort of sexually electric young adults, and romance is one big, heaping helping of yes. Their parents and grandparents had their turn at it, but theirs was sex within limits, sex by the rules, sex—let’s be honest—as intercourse. MORE The New Dating Game: How Smartphone Apps Have Changed Courtship Except it’s not.
Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Thank you all for the great feedback on the last article in this series. I will address the question of taking becoming manipulative in this article.
Given the support, I have decided to continue writing about "Defense Against Manipulative Dating Games". I will save the questions about manipulative giving for the next post.
With that in mind, opening up and getting to know someone does take a certain amount of patience.
Assess each new partner as an individual, and stay keenly connected with how you experience yourself while in his or her presence.
If you missed the first article, you can find it here. Before I can answer those questions, however, I need to clarify a few terms.