It's common for heartbroken individuals to believe that no one else on earth could possibly fill the gap left by the ex-partner.And I have lost count of the number of times that patients have said to me: 'And that's it for me. And no one else will ever love me again.'As I try to point out to them, they can't possibly know that they won't find love again – for the simple reason that they don't have a crystal ball! Whether your spouse left you, your long-term partner called it quits, or the gal/guy you just started texting with pulled a disappearing act, it can do a number on your heart and self-esteem.
It doesn’t help that we are trained to feel that the end of a relationship is one of the biggest failures of our life.
Just turn on the TV and you are bound to see romcoms with the female protagonist chin deep in a gallon of chunky munky, because she just got dumped and is already dreading her future as an old maid living with a house of cats.
This is not a good look, and will not help you meet your Mr/Ms Right. Stop Talking to your Ex If you’re still secretly hoping to work it out with your ex (even though they dumped you!
), and maybe, just maybe, are dating new people in hopes of making them jealous – stop it. Get a Life If all of your hobbies and interests were actually “yours,” try some new stuff.
It's been 5 months since my ex left for good and we've been in NC (his choice, not mine).
My ex and I aren't FB friends, but I'm still FB friends with a couple of his friends and family members.
Or you will see a TV show that paints a romantic relationship as the end all that cures a character’s depression or family/school/life issues. According to “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken,” a book by Greg Brehrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Brehrendt, people who have been dumped should cherish the time they have alone.
Because it might be the last time you are single and have time to enjoy doing things you like alone, before you meet the person who could make you happy.
I also try to help them to see that telling themselves that their romantic life is over for good is not helpful to them, because they are just making themselves more miserable than they already are.
The truth is that in the worst moments of despair, we all tend to feel that nothing nice will ever happen again, but just because we feel that way – it doesn't mean it's true!
Most of us have to cope with being dumped at some point in life. And over the years, I have seen dozens of clients in my consulting room at a time when they were struggling to deal with heartbreak at the end of a relationship.