I attempted to find an answer via The Google, seeking the percentage of men in the US who date ten or more years younger; to my surprise, what popped up first were articles on cougar women dating younger men!
I had just read a comment by a 50-something-year-old woman who has not been successful at finding a relationship in the Atlanta area.
OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54-year-old man really wants from you? As a guy she’s been a tremendous help in terms of understanding and relating to women in the 50 age group.
But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.
These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.
But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.
Men often pursue younger women, even if they aren’t interested in a family. Men certainly have a shorter average lifespan than women, but this doesn’t tell you anything about a particular guy.
The typical reason being, “that’s who I’m more attracted to.” But again, the “sex appeal boundary” gets pushed out further and further as women in their 50’s and 60’s find themselves as public sex symbols. Is it wise for a woman of 55 to consider a relationship with a man who is 65 or 70?
Finally, there’s also the impact of “the marketplace”.
Like it or not, there are ages and individuals who feel that their value in the dating world is so high that they can have success with a very narrow set of criteria.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.