But when it comes from the gay community, it’s worse—because they should understand,” says Ingram, who now lives in Bensalem.
“This is the experience of the gay community—having the straight community tell them they’re wrong, they don’t exist. I feel like ‘I was there with you, in the beginning,’ and then I hear ‘What has bisexuality done for the movement? The history has been rewritten.” Ingram met her husband of three years, James Klawitter, at a meeting of Bi Unity, a Philly-based bisexual support network.
"I don't think about it [his bisexuality] as a part I have to accept," she said.
Denise Ingram is used to explaining herself, and it shows.
She speaks with the measured evenness and experienced passion, the professional restraint and distant hurt of a sociologist who did plenty of her coursework outside of a classroom.
“But in my personal life, in my sex life, in who I choose to love, I just think that I would think about it too much. I wouldn’t be comfortable with it and I don’t know why.” She stressed that she was not being judgmental towards people who are bisexual, noting that she has dated women and that she considers herself to be bisexual.
But she said it is simply her preference for the men that she dates.
“Maybe I’m not secure enough to be with a man that likes other men because I would feel like when he’s out with his boys, it’s just more of a moment, I don’t know,” she elaborated.
“I don’t know if it’s me feeling threatened, I don’t know.
)I'm bi, and though I've done a lot with guys I've done pretty much zip with girls.
I'm a shy kid, so that's tough, but you only live once, right? Where do gorgeous, welcoming bisexuals and lesbians flock to in the nightlife of the City of, er, Sisterly Love?
That means that every time you log in at Women Looking For Couples, you're going to have more people searching for you than anyone else.
We welcome bisexual and bi curious from all walks of life for frank and honest bisexual chat, meet and discussion. Or maybe you're couple, or perhaps in a relationship, and don't know where and how to start, or if this is even for you?
“If you say you’re gay, very few people say, ‘Well, what do you mean?