Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
These couples usually made it to their seventh anniversary before divorcing sometime later.
I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.
These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.
Some publications have determined that the average couple dates for a mere 25 months (just over 2 years) before the question is popped, while others find that couples date for just under 3 years before getting engaged.
There’s a lot of societal pressure on what’s considered normal in the dating and marriage world, so we decided to conduct a survey to find out what’s really going on.
On the other end of this spectrum, only 6% of couples date for 8 years or more before getting engaged.
Though by a relatively small margin, couples in the South spend the least time dating prior to engagement.
Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.
This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.
He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.
Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.